About Patient to Patient IVF — My Story

My Story

I'm not a doctor. I'm not a nurse. I'm not affiliated with any clinic, pharmacy, or supplement company. I'm a patient who has spent years in the fertility trenches — and I built this because the resource I needed didn't exist when I started.

Here's the short version of my journey: multiple clinics, three egg retrievals, four personal failed embryo transfers, a fifth transfer with our surrogate that also failed, an endometriosis diagnosis that took years to get taken seriously, a donor egg journey, and now surrogacy. I've been through Kaiser in Sacramento, Victory Reproductive Care in Canada, and CNY Fertility in Syracuse. I've paid for almost all of it out of pocket. I've spent more hours reading research papers, fertility forums, and clinical studies than I care to admit.

What I've learned — sometimes the hard way — is that an informed and prepared patient gets better care. Not because the information changes what the clinic does, but because it changes what you ask for, what you push back on, what you notice, and how you advocate for yourself.

This site is everything I wish someone had handed me at the beginning. The things that took me years to figure out. The questions I didn't know to ask. The tests nobody suggested. The research that changed how I thought about my own situation.

Take what's useful. Leave what doesn't apply. Always talk to your own care team. But go in informed.